Your Phone keeps you SINGLE
You are a beautiful person. You care about people. You deserve more
All you want is to be able to connect with someone — deep and unconditionally.
Besides the obvious fact that social media have left us isolated — surrounded by “virtual friends” and “followers”. There is another big reason that we are so disconnected, Brace yourself — possibly, it's about to get even worse.
It's the inability to communicate.
— Truth to be told….I suck at holding a steady conversation face to face. Frankly, it's not my leading skill anymore — to communicate verbally. Let me explain…
“No connection without communication.”
Thanks to evolution, Only 10% of our communication is verbal and 90% of it is body language. But in recent times, we have “consciously distant our-selves” from this acquired evolutionary skill. And have pestered all of our communication load on to our fingers(texting, Dm’s).
Although, with all the writing that we do, one could easily assume — our minds must be like a writer's brain by now — but Contrary to that — sentences have gotten shorter, and lately, we don’t even write full words anymore — btw, hyd?
As we communicate, our brains trigger a neurochemical cocktail that makes us feel either good or bad, and we translate that inner experience into words, sentences, and stories. “Feel good” conversations trigger higher levels of dopamine, oxytocin, endorphins, and other biochemicals that give us a sense of well-being — By Nicklas Balboa and Richard D. Glaser, Ph.D., Psychology Today.
Having the ability to get better at things we do so often, our brain is a marvel. But the decreased frequency of verbal-communication has also caused a decline in its ability. The neuro-network, which otherwise would be active during a verbal conversation, has now gone stale.
The unconscious rush of feeling when we hear our own sounds, does not happen as often as it should.
Surely it does lead to some chemical changes in it as well. Good and bad.
But since “good and bad” is largely about perspective. Therefore, we will only talk about scientific measurable changes. Which btw, are profound.
Who we are — is a combination of our “deeds and thoughts”. And depriving the “body” of full expression is a form of “self-suppression”. Which leads to more complications in how we feel.
One of which is feeling “closed up” — mentally and physically.
Ever heard of a phrase…expand your wings? Well, closed up is the opposite of that. Your wings are tied down and the rope is so tight, that it's making it hard to breath. — And that’s what life becomes.
It also contributes to many short and long term mental issues. Some of which are — lack of motivation, feeling low, self-esteem, etc., — Which in short, is also a form of “disconnect” from our-self. And from the world.
Ok, now that we are done with the dark part,
But, the good news is — we can fix it.
More on that in part 2 —